Rejection #72
It was with an online female nicknamed "268243" which I met from an online English QQ group. Obviously she was searching for a foreign boyfriend (or something similar as relationship) because she insisted to have video-chats, to watch photos, to know my
nationality,
age and even the
height. But she was the type "Only I can see you/watch you, you can't." and tricked others to send her their photos and nothing in return... so I refused to follow this model ("Only I send you, you just judge my looks and don't show yourself!")... but still, I was too generous to send her a photograph of mine... she insisted to continue giving her more information about me, without showing herself... and at the end she decided to ghost me. Let it be.
"2020-03-31
10:01:45 PM
Hi, Barbara! Nice to meet you around!
10:01:51 PM
How are you?
10:05:29 PM
Do you speak any English?
10:05:37 PM
I'm from Europe, a EU person.
Barbara 10:06:04 PM
Hi
10:06:23 PM
Where are you from, Barbara?
Barbara 10:06:42 PM
China
Barbara 10:06:52 PM
English and Chinese
10:06:57 PM
I suppose so.
10:07:04 PM
Are you in Haikou?
Barbara 10:07:10 PM
Which one do you prefer?
Barbara 10:07:13 PM
Yeah
10:07:29 PM
English, because my Chinese isn't very good.
10:07:36 PM
Me too. I live in Haikou.
10:08:34 PM
What are you working currently?
Barbara 10:12:05 PM
Now I'm in guangzhou
Barbara 10:12:14 PM
But I will back to海口 soon
10:12:33 PM
It's nice to hear that.
10:12:49 PM
I'd be glad to be your friend!
Barbara 10:13:14 PM
What's your nationality
Barbara 10:14:41 PM
Are you A student?
10:16:40 PM
I'm from the EU. I'm a teacher and a writer.
Barbara 10:17:47 PM
What is EU
Barbara 10:18:12 PM
Are you an English teacher?
10:18:18 PM
The European Union, it's in Europe. A big thing.
10:18:36 PM
Yes. My major is "Philosophy". I write books and I do teach English as well.
Barbara 10:19:02 PM
There are 27 countries in EU?
Barbara 10:19:10 PM
Which one is your country?
Barbara 10:20:07 PM
Where have you been to China?
10:20:41 PM
Yes, there are.
10:21:26 PM
Well, I'll keep it as a secret for now. Later, if we become good friends, I'll tell you more details about the country. I think it's not important though.
10:21:54 PM
I've been to Heilongjiang, Jilin, Liaoning, Shanghai, Guangdong, Macao (Aomen) and Hainan.
10:23:57 PM
The important is people to meet someone who is valuable: for example I don't smoke, don't drink hard alcohol, I'm a sporty man (wushu and fitness), I like to write poems and I do write e-books. This is good. The nationality means nothing.
10:26:11 PM
By the way, I have white skin, bigger nose, blue-green eyes, brown hair. And I'm not fat.
10:26:23 PM
Maybe you may like me. You may add me.
Barbara 10:35:29 PM
I'm ugly
Barbara 10:35:39 PM
Neither beautiful nor sexy
10:36:53 PM
我们已经是好友啦,一起来聊天吧!
10:37:22 PM
But I didn't mean that. I don't need a girl to be pretty or sexy... I just value the inner beauty.
Barbara 10:37:44 PM
I'm lazy and stupid
10:38:24 PM
Why do you think you're stupid? I don't know about the laziness... but I think you're a clever girl.
Barbara 10:39:41 PM
Where do you get the picture of your head portrait?
10:39:58 PM
It's my favorite plant. It's in Hainan.
10:40:23 PM
The photo is taken in Haikou, near the Hairui's palace museum.
10:40:34 PM
I like plants.
Barbara 10:40:44 PM
Cannot be seen clear
10:40:46 PM
And I'm a fan of the local, Hainanese nature.
Barbara 10:40:55 PM
So I cannot recognize what it is
Barbara 10:41:17 PM
But do you wonder the impression of this picture?
Barbara 10:41:23 PM
In China
10:41:33 PM
10:42:07 PM
Yes, you may tell me. What's the impression?
10:42:25 PMBarbara撤回了一条消息
Barbara 10:42:41 PM
In China,Only middle-aged women use this kind of picture as their head portrait
Barbara 10:42:46 PM
Haha
Barbara 10:42:50 PM
But you can use
Barbara 10:42:55 PM
Because you are special
Barbara 10:43:01 PM
You can use what you like
10:43:12 PM
Oh, I see. But I just love plants, so... I'm a romantic man.
10:43:26 PM
I can use my ex-image then.
2020-03-31
Barbara 10:43:39 PM
No you don't need to change
10:44:03 PM
It's okay.
10:44:15 PM
I like when people are honest to me!
Barbara 10:44:17 PM
Sorry
10:47:49 PM
What are you sorry for? I'm glad you said it. I love the honesty!
10:48:05 PM
Because I'm a very straight and honest, frank man too.
10:48:23 PM
This is my ex-avatar. That time I was heart-broken.
10:48:34 PM
But, I can find something else...
Barbara 10:49:07 PM
What is avatar?
10:50:10 PM
The picture like that
10:50:24 PM
But the original meaning of "avatar" is a Buddhist thing.
10:50:53 PM
It shows "a god, who was born as a man on Earth", to protect people. It's according to the Buddhism.
10:51:45 PM
I've changed my avatar. This is a dish of food. I can cook some simple dishes like this one.
Barbara 10:57:49 PM
Tomato and potato
10:57:50 PM
[自动回复]你好,我现在有事不在,一会再和你联系。
Barbara 11:00:58 PM
(She tries to make a video-call, to see/watch me)
Barbara 11:01:48 PM
你的通话时长较短,是不是遇到问题了?试试语音测试向导,帮你解决问题。
Barbara 11:02:00 PM
?
11:02:09 PM
Brb. Wait. I started to take a shower right now... BRB.
11:10:05 PM
I'm back.
11:10:21 PM
Well, yes, it's the exactly what you said.
Barbara 11:10:34 PM
Can I see you
11:10:35 PM
Mashed potatoes and tomatoes.
11:10:50 PM
Sure, we may exchange photos, if you wish so.
11:11:02 PM
Barbara 11:11:06 PM
Cannot be video call?
11:11:36 PM
Not now, because it's late and the neighbors may feel not comfortable. I am very silent at night.
Barbara 11:11:59 PM
Are not you live along?
11:13:55 PM
我的中文不太好,可是我试试翻译一下:我说我的“邻居”。比如我是在102,邻居是103和101公寓。所以晚上的时候,因为墙好差,我不要他们觉的我是吵人。我也希望他们不吵。对我安静的生活是价值观。
11:14:07 PM
And I'll send you a photo without beard.
Barbara 11:14:18 PM
Okay
Barbara 11:14:48 PM
May I know your height
Barbara 11:15:06 PM
And your age
11:15:38 PM
(A photo of mine.)
11:16:07 PM
OK. Sure. But now let me first see your photos. Step by step. One thing in a time.
Barbara 11:16:14 PM
You are teaching children english?
11:16:27 PM
Yes. And also I'm a poet and a writer.
Barbara 11:16:38 PM
Is English your mother tongue?
Barbara 11:16:43 PM
You are so brilliant
11:17:06 PM
Waiting for your photos.
Barbara 11:17:21 PM
But I never promise you to change photo
11:17:52 PM
Thanks! I have a lot of hobbies.而且除了英语,我会几门外语的。
现在你发给我你的照片,如果我已经发给了你我的。
11:18:39 PM
这样的话我已经不会告诉你我的年龄或我的其它什么的。原来我说了:
11:19:11 PM
如果你只有要我发给,我回答你,但是你不要公平的,我也不会的。The choice is yours.
11:22:24 PM
对了。我问你个问题:如果我们做VIDEO-chat, 我能看见你吗?还是只有你要看我的?
11:23:57 PM
对了。我问你个问题:如果我们做VIDEO-chat话, 我能看见你吗?还是只有你要看我的?
Barbara 11:28:10 PM
有可能也让你看我
11:29:14 PM
我喜欢不自私的,公平的友谊。不要只有我说,只有我发给,只有我。互相的,平等的,是我的核心价值观。
Barbara 11:30:04 PM
You are too serious
11:32:44 PM
如果你发给你的照片,可是男人不发给你会觉的怎么样?如果只有你问你问题呢?我真的不喜欢这样的。是的,我要SERIOUS,责任心的态度。我不要玩玩,我不要开玩笑。我希望这些小事情可以公平一点。我不要人家利用我的。怎么只有我发给,你不发给?为什么只有我要回答你的问题,如果你一张照片都没有发给我的呢?抱歉,可是这样是不对的。
Barbara 11:49:45 PM
But I never send my picture to stranger
11:51:28 PM
好吧。随便你。我说了我们EXCHANGE,你不说了早点你不要。你希望了只有你看我,可是不要我看你。非常不公平。
Barbara 11:58:50 PM
Sorry
2020-04-01
Barbara 12:06:15 AM
Do you like share your private event with others?
Barbara 12:28:14 AM
What can I get if I see you?
Barbara 12:28:18 AM
Money?
12:39:03 AM
So, why did you lie the other person?
12:39:29 AM
你怎么一直这样骗?他们让你看,你不让。他说的你可能是男人。
12:39:48 AM
为什么要我们的照片,视频?你到底要做什么?
2020-04-01
12:40:15 AM
是不是你卖我们的照片和私人的信息?你是什么人?
12:41:52 AM
(screenshot)
12:45:10 AM
希望未来的时候你可以发现这个方式不是好的。
2020-04-04
4:48:42 PM
今天我可以给你words of wisdom ..."
That was all. Nothing more.
A very selfish person. But she said it about herself too: "lazy and stupid". This is a good self-portrait. Nothing of value was lost. No regrets.