Don't even think of being suicidal
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Read this amazingly wise answer to Will who was suicidal ("Guys I feeling suicidal right now. It's Christmas and I see every couple on Instagram holding hands and cuddling and wearing matching outfits by the Christmas tree."). Here is the answer: (By Brent) "I know this is a late reply, but that's most likely because people don't tend to post pictures of themselves alone by the Christmas tree. I was alone all Christmas, as well as a bunch of my buddies. Other friends of mine weren't but that's because they still drink and were probably at a friend's house getting ripped. And then there are my friends who are/were married. Many look happy, but their relationship is like dancing on coals. As for myself, I was a massive alcoholic. When I quit, I went through a lot of physical pain. Also, every member of my family died during that five year period. Parents, uncles, aunts. I have no sibs. But something amazing happened after I quit: I lost all my libido. I have absolutely zero desire to be in a relationship and 100% desire to occupy my free time with things that interest me. It's like complete freedom. Even though my life is far from perfect, there is absolutely no hole where there used to be one. Lack of a relationship doesn't bother me because I have no desire to have one. I place emphasis on finding true high quality friends. And even if that happens slowly, I have my own interests. Just wanted to share my story with you and also let you know that you're not... Well, to quote The Police, "You're not alone in being alone." 😊 I did a few simple things that I think helped. One was that I kept track of activities, no matter how mundane they may be, that erased anxiety and depression (for me the one that works well is studying Hebrew - why? I don't know; I have my hypotheses, but all that matters is that it's worked). The key thing is to aim for lack of pain/contentment/happiness. Years of searching for a companion didn't bring that, so I looked elsewhere. And lo and behold, it worked."