Our friend is a maximalist (in the sense, that he wants the best, the top). Maybe it's because of his maximalistic mother (老虎妈妈 in Chinese, literally "tiger mother") who expects from him to do the best. One of the problems of many Chinese (and other Asian, but not only) students. So, it's not a strange thing but he should realize that to target the best isn't every time the best option. There are plenty of examples how people got better if they target the less difficult things.
An example with the incels, Chads, etc. Let's say you're a Norman (a normie) and you want a Stacy. Okay but it's nearly impossible, isn't it? And you're wasting your time, nerves, youth for this impossible dream. At the same time another Norman is okay with a Becky and he's already happily married... Who is better? The one who wanted a Stacy and remains (becaomes) an incel or another one who isn't an incel and lives in a good marriage? Or, let's suppose the Norman got the Stacy but she has a very high expectation and one day she leaves him? At the same time, the other Norman's wife (that Becky mentioned right now) is okay with him and they're still married...
Nobody expects you to be a GigaChad or to be a Harvard student. Just be a Changlite and graduate in some good university, and your life (if you have money and you're in good health) will be a joyful one.