[MSL]

Needy or not

  Being "needy" is a normal, natural status when you're lacking something. For example, when there is no money, no capital, you're poor, i. e. you're in need, you're needy. The same is when you're a loveless person, when you're an incel. Being needy is the logical, natural incels' status.
 So, the question here is, concretely, is it right to show your neediness or not? There are those theories that state: "If you show you're a needy person, she is not going to like you." but there are the opposite ones who suppose that "If you're dealing with a romantic girl and you express your neediness in the right ways like admiration, support, etc., she may value you and like you/love you more than if you are keeping a colder or cocky attitude toward her."
 I am a person who prefers the honesty so I never avoided to show my neediness. Maybe it was the reason I lost many chances with girls I liked but, well, at least I was real, I wasn't someone who's showing them just a mask; a fake personality.
 And example of an e-mail (from 2007) which shows my "neediness", but in fact, the real me (by the way China that I am talking about isn't the present (2023's) China. Now the situation here isn't that good as it was.): e-mail to a pretty, nice and interesting American girl.

[Incel]

And before some incels to say: "If you're a Chad it doesn't matter because they'll say that Chad being needy is attractive or being cocky is attractive too." I'd like to remind them that most of the people aren't Chads and here we're talking about the majority of the cases.

I guess the best is to keep it "not too needy" but to avoid being dishonest.

[Alexa]

I think the results will be different according to the couple.

[Xsokii]

The conversation was so cute omg.

[Dimitroff]

If I miss something? Which conversation, @Lexi?

[Alexa]

Yes, which one? Where?

[Xsokii]

HE LITERALLY LINKED IT IN HIS POST.

[/color]): e-mail to a pretty, nice and interesting American girl.

[MSL]

Ha-ha. Thanks. I think many of the people didn't get it because I used “e-mail” and you used "conversation". 

I'll explain even more about it: I was a pretty big fan of China that time (and I am still loving the Chinese culture but recently, after the president became like an emperor-like ruler and made the situation here more and more restricted for the Chinese people and for most of the foreigners, I am not going to continue living in China) and I never liked USA so much because the USA is full of gunshots, rude and aggressive gangster-like people (including all those bullies in schools, on the streets, etc.), dirty rap songs, racism and so on. But this American (US) girl was really something! Nice, tender, pretty, gentle, more than average educated and learning, so I was very attracted to her and even sang a song to her but she didn't like me that much and in one moment we just didn't continue to communicate anymore (she had some tall, lean male classmate around her all the time; not sure he was just an orbiter, a real close friend, or a boyfriend; maybe he was the reason for her final decision not to give me a chance but it's a past story... I just used it to show how frank, honest I am and, in some cases, this looks what people describe as "needy".)

[Alexa]

Right, sorry.

[Деси]

Romantic in fact...

[Gay]

Yes, yes, yes and yes.